Dealing with Stress

This is the first time i am penning down my views in writing. I believe these thoughts which keep on pondering in my mind should reach people and if it is helpful to any one person than my purpose of writing is solved. In today's hard life we all suffer from stress . Everybody has different ways of dealing with stress. If we talk about what is stress that will again be relative. But the one which I found appropriate is a situation where we are supposed to handle things which we are normally not used to. Things further can be categorized into visible or invisible, physical or mental; controllable or uncontrollable. Like certain things in our life happen as they are predestined like a parting from loved one and when we have to manage life without that loved one we come under stress. We normally then blame circumstances, other peoples behavior and so on and on. But I want to ask a question why we always knowingly or unknowingly throw ball in others court why do not we do self analysis first . Yes, these uncontrollable things when happen in we feel helpless. For these things we keep on thinking why this happened to me? I am feeling so helpless. Wanna share one life experience a very sweet friend of mine lost her father all of a sudden . Whenever i used to meet her i used to feel so helpless to answer her queries. Her stress level was too high that she left her PHD in between , she used to sit whole day at home doing nothing. On other hand her younger sister joined job to make herself busy and to not to think for those questions which we do not have answer. My friend after seeing her sister realized that she is just loosing precious time of life and just emitting negative energy to surroundings. She got inspired from her sister joined her PHD back after a year and today she is a successful professor. From all this i concluded its the way how we look at things is what matters. Do we want to spend our life in worrying about things which are not under our control or we want to change our perspective of viewing things and lead our life in peace. Stress sometimes is just created by habit. There are people who have a habit of performing in Stress. They believe there efficiency is best when they are under strong urgency zone. But as a human being we have been given responsibility of universe. We need to ask our self that by always being there in crisis zone are we giving energy or we are just spreading negative energy in universe. Both positive and negative energy send out in world roll back like snowballs, picking up size and speed as they return. Let us all start looking at our self and come out of stress so that we can heal the souls arround us.
Few things which can help us doing this :
1. Aceept the things which are beyond our control do not resist ant try to move with flow of life.
2. Manage your time effectively.
3. Our inner soul is our best guide listen to you inner voice before taking any decision.
4. Meditation, Yoga, Prayers are certain medias which help in decreasing the anxiety level.
These are just views put in words any body wants to put in his/ her views please feel free to comment.
happiness always...